Safi Sirke


Illustration: by Marylu E. Herrera

This week, a man explores their sex, kinks, and boundaries after in a heterosexual wedding: 34, in a polyamorous relationship, Philly.


8:30 a.m.

I awaken Sunday early morning in J’s West Village apartment. We came across 12 years back at an event (whenever I ended up being straight and he ended up being a female) and seriously disliked each other. We not too long ago reconnected as I noticed him tweeting about their separation and divorce and subsequent change. I slid into the DMs to enjoy him towards the queer divorcé pub.

My ex and that I happened to be together for seven many years. Our very own marriage were not successful because we expanded aside. We went poly as an endeavor to bring back it, that has been an emergency. While I had been abruptly able to time once more, I understood I was keen on guys (a realization that occurred within gymnasium, obviously).

Anyhow, J is a great twink — both boyish and sensitive. We see one another every few weeks and don’t stop talking in between.

9 a.m.

J and that I fuck before my personal bus back into Philly. I am able to inform J really loves becoming a child and really loves drilling being banged by various other young men. Providing him that experience can be gratifying once the gender it self.

11 a.m.

Through the bus, I text my girl, K, whom lives in Boston and is seeing on Thursday. We’ve been undertaking long-distance over the past seven-ish months. I tell the girl about my personal weekend with J, whom she is came across. It’s cheesy poly shit, but i am pleased that my gf has become friends with some body I’m witnessing.

7 p.m.

I pause a casino game of

Elden Ring

to jack off.

11 p.m.

I turn fully off my PlayStation and text both K and J good-night.

DAY pair

9 a.m.

I really do my personal WFH spreadsheets job in offer technology. Mundane, whatever.

1 p.m.

Information a to verify we’re gonna go out later. They go back to me some future to confirm.

6:30 p.m.

Yoga class.

9 p.m.

an and I also cuddle within our lingerie. They certainly were a normal next with me as well as the person I was online dating during COVID, but since then, we’ve been attempting (and a failure) to reconnect for a while.

an is a specialist dancer and has now an absolutely amazing human body. We don’t end up setting up, nevertheless feels great to be with them. They will have viewed extreme section of my queer development over the last 24 months. They tell me they are transferring to the western Coast for a-dance job. I inform them i am excited on their behalf, though privately I’m unfortunate, hoping I’d prioritized watching them a lot more.

11 p.m.

We find out with a within foyer until my Uber arrives. I’m regretful that I didn’t try to begin a hookup early in the day. We promise to hold around before they leave.

time THREE

9 a.m.

Wood onto work, check some e-mails.

9:30 a.m.

Feed my sourdough starter. We make loaves of bread for a regular queer potluck I go to with C, a nonbinary pull queen i have been watching significantly frequently. We text them confirming they are going to the potluck the next day. I additionally text V, the pilates instructor I’m meant to see tonight. This lady has incredible abs, large vision, and a blonde mullet. She is had gotten that yoga-teacher crunchiness (which I seriously have actually a thing for).

2 p.m.

I ask K about her ideas for today. She is going to a novel signing about queer background with a lady she actually is witnessing. I tell the lady that I’m watching V this evening. We are both delighted each some other.

7 p.m.

We bike to V’s destination. She helps make vegan ramen. In a short time, we’re naked inside her bedroom. V likes that i could toss the lady around and pin the lady down — I found myself a powerlifter and a bodybuilder consistently before using yoga — and I love just how bendy and versatile this woman is. I grab her up and running and screw their while standing for a little, that we can tell converts their in. She arrives a number of occasions and asks us to arrive. We assist.

10:30 p.m.

My personal feet are very exhausted and tender that i have to cycle home standing.

11 p.m.

K texts me a cute selfie of her along with her time. We inform their i am hoping she’s got an excellent some time start

Elden Ring

to relax and play for one hour before bed.


7 a.m.

I awake to a text from K regarding how she had a whole bunch of random gay sex. Hell yeah.

11 a.m.

The loaves of bread look wonderful. We take a photo that We post to Instagram and Twitter and deliver to any or all I’m starting up or flirting with.

5:30 p.m.

I head over to see C before the potluck. We catch up within garden. They’re disarmingly sweet and easy to talk to, in addition they draw out a sort and mild area in me personally that I really like.

6 p.m.

We visit their particular place to manufacture and jack one another down quite. Neither people come, but neither folks seems the requirement to. Something about setting up with C delivers me personally into a really good “head unused, no ideas” area. Together with other folks, my personal head can walk regardless how much i am enjoying the intercourse, however with C, i’m completely enveloped by the experience.

9 p.m.

C and that I kiss both so long following potluck. We catch a journey back again to my neighbor hood thinking of just how nice they truly are.


7 a.m.

K comes to Philly these days!

12:30 p.m.

K texts myself a lovely selfie of this lady on the Amtrak. I react with a heart-eyes emoji.

5:15 p.m.

K finds my personal apartment, and I’m thrilled observe the lady. She’s got amazing curls, deep doe vision, and a deliciously tight climber’s human body. We found at a buddy’s party. I becamen’t yes I happened to be prepared for a relationship, however the mental connection was actually too-good not to go after, despite the bullshit of long distance. Today she actually is moving to Philly to-be with me (and to escape Boston). She’s already been poly her whole adult existence and is also acquiring ahold of her very own bisexuality in the same manner i’m. It feels good to get with someone who is certainly going through certain exact same things as myself.

We now have an extended, sweet embrace. We bury my personal face in her own hair and inhale her aroma. We strip down and climb up onto sleep. Sooner or later, cuddling changes to fucking. We have come to be specialists in both’s satisfaction. I finger the girl, and she utilizes a vibrator until she arrives, however fuck her from behind and appear inside of her — our sight closed into the mirror i have hung-up close to my sleep. We just take a couple of sexy naked selfies with each other, then pass-out in one another’s arms, our very own feet snuggled by my pet.

8 p.m.

We get up from your snooze and determine hitting within the kink meetup at a bar within my neighborhood. I’m a new comer to the kink world, but K’s already been carrying it out for some time. We make lightweight small talk which includes of the attendees before K eventually operates within the self-confidence to ask a pretty girl whom a few people are striking if she will have a turn. As K deftly slaps your ex butt with a riding crop, the lady whimpers with satisfaction, the lady back arching. We take into account the chance for appealing the woman home and fucking her collectively. But she actually is here with her precious (but demonstrably right) date, and that I’m positive he’s probably thinking a similar thing about K.

11:30 p.m.

We go home giddy with pleasure that K will move right here therefore we’ll manage to do that constantly. I am worn out, but K is great at rousing me while I’m tired. We fuck and pass-out in both’s hands.


12:15 p.m.

We use the lunch time break to have sex. K is checking out some bi-gender stuff, so she wears a binder and I call this lady my personal guy. I really don’t love being also principal with females, but I really do think its great with guys. You will find her know me as “Daddy,” slapping the woman ass and screwing her tough. Neither of us will come, but we both get plenty of satisfaction from it.

5:30 p.m.

Yoga class with K. V isn’t really instructing tonight, but all events have actually confirmed that it would not end up being weird if she had been. During course, we idly imagine a post-yoga threesome with K and V.

7 p.m.

K and that I grab takeout along the way straight back from the facility, smoke weed, and see certain attacks of

Star Trek: Deep Space Nine

. (She’s a huge follower.)

9 p.m.

K pegs me personally with all the strap we bought on her finally go here. I quiver with satisfaction. We are both covers but switch for every various other. She pulls my tresses, and that I ride her strap in a number of jobs. Whenever my anus can not go on it any longer, we screw this lady and appear inside of her. However get this lady down making use of a mixture of a vibrator and a metal insertable rod. She squirts a whole lot (we have now learned to get a towel down), after that comes difficult, melting into my hands.


8 a.m.

We wake-up before K and obtain some

Elden Ring


9:30 a.m.

K wakes up, and now we have bagels and coffee.

8 p.m.

After a relatively low-key time, K and that I cook to go down with a few buddies to a regional queer dance night. K does my personal eyeshadow, and that I wear my black-leather use, leather-based cuffs, and cat ears.

11 p.m.

We meet our pals at pub, that coke and mushrooms. K partakes of both, but we stick with weed. There are lots of lovely males.




good looking man with a Jersey feature comes up to me and excitedly claims hello. I am visibly baffled until he reminds myself which he’s D, the guy from my very first Grindr hookup finally autumn (really, one among these — it was a foursome in a hotel in which I was also nervous getting tough). I introduce him to K, who says to him it really is an honor.

12 a.m.

Dance and flirting with cuties together (in addition to the medicines) have actually K and me personally buzzing and frisky. We enter a bathroom stall, and she immediately begins blowing myself. The seediness associated with the whole experience is a huge turn on for both people.

1 a.m.

Our very own friends imply that there’ll be an after-party and likely an orgy, but both K and I also are running out of power and want to capture a pilates class each morning. We simply take an Uber home, have some comfortable and sleepy sex, and go to bed in both’s hands.

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